Tips for Negotiating Benefits
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Happy Wednesday! If you’re new around here, every mid-week, I write for a series called Women in the Workplace Wednesday, where I discuss real-life topics like should you date a co-worker and how to ask for a raise. Last week I shared my do’s and don’t’s (and personal struggles) with work from home tips. Today’s post on negotiating benefits was actually supposed to go live last week, but with all of this COVID-19 / Coronavirus craziness, I switched things up to be more relevant to the moment.
Now I will say that this post is still very relevant with the insane amount of layoffs and job opportunities out there. I saw an interesting tweet the other day and wanted to relay the message here… after all this is over, you will now be able to ask a new question when you are interviewing for a position. You can ask how the company responded to the COVID-19 outbreak in 2020 and how they took care of their employees. Nick’s company has been AMAZING, but I’m not really surprised, because they were this fantastic back in October when we had to evacuate for the Getty Fire. For example, whenever schools had closed, businesses hadn’t yet, they offered solutions and funding for child care, so their employees could still attend meetings and get work done. And that is just a quick example. How companies treat their employees greatly affects company loyalty and retention, so be on the lookout for things like this, over a job that lacks culture and has a higher pay scale. Companies who take care of you often give in the money department as well.
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Speaking of compensation, the salary you start with will greatly affect all your future salaries, so it is imperative that you go in at the highest possible number you can negotiate. It might seem silly to say, but it’s worth the mention, as so many people (women specifically) don’t try to negotiate. I went into it in more detail here, but an example in my life was with my longest tenured company:
Upon receiving the job offer (job #2), I asked for 12.5% more than they offered, but they said no and were adamant on keeping their offer as is. The offer was 5% more than I was making at job #1.
I ended up staying at job #2 for 5 + years and only had a 20% increase from my starting salary to the salary when I left. For reference, I stayed at job #1 for a little over a year and had a 12% increase from year 1 to the start of year 2. At job #2 I ended up only getting around a 4% increase YOY. (year over year)
If job #2 had accepted my negotiated salary before my job started and my salary increased at the same 4% increase YOY, I would have been making $10k more a year than I was when I left. Instead I left only making 6% more than the salary I tried to negotiate 5 years earlier.
All that to say, It is SO important to not only negotiate your benefits, but do so before you start, as those things will affect literally all of your future benefits to come, whether it is pay, the ability to work from home, or vacation days.
TIPS FOR NEGOTIATING BENEFITS
Know what you want. This sounds silly, but so many people don’t know what they want, so benefits blindside them when they start to go into affect. You know your list of must have’s and would like to have’s when you’re looking at an apartment or a house? Have that, but for jobs! An example for me was with vacation days. The last company I worked with only gave 1 week vacation until you had been there for 5 years. I said absolutely not, as the job I was leaving had just bumped me up to 3 weeks vacation and I wasn’t going to settle for less than 2 weeks. They ended up only giving me 1 week vacation for the rest of the year, but were willing to work with me regarding any other time I wanted to take off AND would bump me to 2 weeks vacation at the start of year 2. So, no, not the 3 weeks I wanted, but I was happy with where we ended up, as we were able to meet in the middle.
Do your research. Hopefully you’ve already done this for the interview portion, but know what you’re going into. Read things like Glassdoor to get an idea of salaries, benefits, etc, so you aren’t going in blinded. You also may find out something that causes you to ask for more specific details in your offer! Also, know what is negotiable and what isn’t. While you never know unless you ask, things like insurance aren’t really negotiable unless you’re looking at a contract or part-time position vs full-time. A good personal example of this is a company who reached out to me upon me moving to LA. I knew them from a previous company relationship, and I knew they had money. The company they wanted to hire me for didn’t have a ton of cash, but I knew they had the ability to give me what I needed. The role was a managerial position overseeing everything stateside. They wanted to pay me less than I made at the company where I met them, do more work that I previously had been in charge of, AND they wanted me to be a contract worker. They were aware I was moving, so they knew about how much more would come out of my paycheck for taxes. It was a low ball offer if I’ve ever seen one. They even told my previous boss that “I kept asking for more money”. Typically a contract worker makes more, because the company doesn’t have to pay for benefits like PTO, insurance, etc. In this case, I knew what they were capable of paying, I knew they would work me hard, and that the pay wouldn’t get better over time, so I declined. I did have the benefit of knowing them personally before doing my “homework”, but still. It wasn’t a good offer even if I hadn’t of known them. ALSO, besides doing research on the company specifically, you should also do market research, to know what other people in your field / position are making.
Get it in writing. But seriously though. Talk is cheap. I want it in writing and I want it in a contract. Depending on where you live, having it written in email form may work too. (It did when I lived in Texas.) I know so many people who were told “oh yeah I’ll work with you on being able to work from home” or having “unlimited PTO” and companies don’t follow through. Fight to get it written out, so you are protected. During my last position, they didn’t do contracts (weird I know), but everything we negotiated on was in an email and that was what I needed to hold them to it.
Ask for more. This isn’t a new idea, but still worth mentioning. Ask for more money, PTO days, etc than you actually want, so if they negotiate with you, you’ll hopefully land somewhere near what you actually want. Also, if you know what you want, per my first bullet point, then you know how low you’d actually be willing to go. ALSO, you might be pleasantly surprised how companies might give you more than you actually want!
Meet in the middle. When you were doing your research, like in bullet point 2, you may have seen that they are a small company and can’t pay competitively, but they make give things like shares (equity) in the company to help compensate in other ways. If they have a service or product, take into account if they give credits or discounts in this area. For example, Uber gave shares to employees and back in 2019, when they went public, those employees got to cash in. They also give credits that can be used for Uber rides or Uber Eats. If you know know what you want (bullet point 1), you can weigh these against your must have’s and would likes.
It’s okay to walk. It’s a two way process. In negotiating you have to be able to accept or decline. In all of my initial offers I have negotiated salaries, but have never gotten what I asked for. It wasn’t a make a break for me as I wanted the job regardless. It was more of a “I have to at least try,” so I didn’t feel weird taking the job anyway. My last offer they ended up giving me more than what I asked for, but that is another story for another day!
THOUGHTS ON NEGOTIATING
It’s easier to negotiate when you already have a job. Duh, but really. You might find that if you have been looking for a while, you might need to lower your requests. Don’t necessarily lower your standards, but know that you may need to bend a bit. I’ve been looking for a job since last July and am now starting to realize this.
I know it’s scary, but you need to negotiate. I don’t like it either. I never like the feeling of asking for things, but it is necessary. I like to practice what you are going to say, so I do better representing myself during these kinds of meetings.
Ask how they perform reviews. I’ve mentioned this several times, especially regarding questions to ask during an interview, but I’m going to say it again here. You need to know how they do reviews, so you can be prepared to re-negotiate for yourself. If these happen “whenever they need to happen”, that should be a red flag, but also a note, that they probably won’t negotiate well after the job offer. I’m not saying don’t the job; however, you need to be aware of the situation. If you can’t get X upon the initial offer and they have some promise of doing it in the future, without it specifically in writing or a structured review process, it probably won’t happen.
Be nice. You get further with honey than with vinegar! Be kind, don’t be demanding, and you will go further. People are more likely to try and help someone they connect with on a personal level than not. Being personal and optimistic is key, because even if you don’t “win” the negotiation, they will at least remember you with grace.
Have any thoughts or tips I didn’t mention? Let me know in the comments, so other people can learn too!
Oh and I know this outfit isn’t really workplace friendly, but throw on a jean jacket or a blazer and it just might be! If you want to see it styled other ways, I recently featured it on an Art of Versatility post. It’s perfect to wear now, all the way through fall!
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